We were at at service of remembrance on Friday night. Our local hospital organises it annually. Towards the end of the service, after all the parents had lit candles for their children, the lights were dimmed and the hospital staff encircled the congregation with their lit candles. It never really occurred to me that our loss affected them too. They have held the service for three years now. This year there were enough staff there to stand side by side and encircle the entire congregation of a packed church.
We felt held.