Thursday, November 4, 2010

Goodbye, Danielle



about the piece.

The Hudson Valley has become a crucial place of peace and safety for us since we lost our babies. We scattered Kai's ashes there two years ago, and I traveled there alone last year before my first IVF cycle to find clarity and strength. We went back again when we lost Chip this January, the ice thick and loud on the water. Last weekend, while waiting to hear the results of our most recent cycle, we traveled back up to our beloved Hudson, where the leaves were in full autumnal blaze. We sent two leaves floating down the river- one for Kai and one for Chip- and asked them to help bring their sister safely to us.

This cycle didn't work. And with that, for many reasons, our journey through infertility, pregnancy, loss, infertility, pregnancy, loss, and infertility is at an end. We thank you for your love and support along the way, wish you many blessings, and ask for yours in whatever is to follow.

We love you, Kai, Chip, and Ellie.


about the contributor.

Danielle lives in New York with her husband, but without the children whom she loves and misses every day.

Remembering Kai today, two years after his birth, and his brother and sister, Chip and Ellie with Danielle and her husband. The still life 365 community grieves with you.


  1. Beautiful photo. Lots of (*hugs*) Thinking of you all.

  2. Tears roll from my eyes for all of you. Life is tragic and I do not understand why it needs to be this way. I am wrapping you in nurturing cuddles. With my love, Janice

  3. I am so sorry. Sending you love.

  4. I am just crushed for you Dani. Have sent you an email. A thousand times I am sorry.
    Grieving with you. Missing Kai. Remembering all three of your babies.
    Ellie, what a gorgeous name.
    Oh Dani, I'm just so sorry.

  5. sending love and remembering your babies with you. xo

  6. Dear Dani, you reached out to me so soon after your own loss. And I will always be grateful. Remembering Kai and his siblings and letting you know that we are right here on this journey of acceptance with you.

    I am so sorry.

  7. Danielle, I was looking at the photo and admiring it for its contrasting textures and colors, but that feeling quickly turned to aching when I read the words on this page. I am so very sorry. You have my sorrow.

  8. I'm so sorry for your losses. Having to endure so much is just inexplainable. I live in the Hudson Valley area, and it is beautiful, a beautiful place to remember your babies. Wishing you peace through whatever comes next.

  9. Hi Danielle,

    My heart goes out to you and your husband, and to your three precious angels who briefly came to visit you here on earth. They will always be a part of you, as you begin a new chapter in your life.

    I wish you and your husband much peace and comfort...

  10. Sending you so much love, Dani. I will hold your Kai, Chip, and Ellie close, always.

  11. Thank you all. We are so grateful to have been touched by so much compassion and love on this journey.

  12. sending so much love to you sweet dani
    and to your lost babies

  13. I'm so very sorry. The photo is beautiful.Remembering your precious children with you.x

  14. This is a beautiful and powerfully emotional photo. I love it's beauty and sorrow.

  15. What an amazingly poignant photo. I wish things were different.


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